Roles – Amazing isn’t it? We are just one person…one individual and yet, in our lifetime, we end up playing so many different ROLES. If I turn back and look at my life, there are so many different roles associated with me…..daughter, sister, student, friend, employee, wife, daughter-in-law, mother, acquaintance, stranger…..my role is completely defined from the perspective of the person on the other side. And each role brings out a different side of me….a different aspect of my personality. So, while my close friends and family has seen the talkative (in fact, sometimes talks without thinking) side of me….mere acquaintances and strangers may find me quiet and a tad boring. In the role of daughter to my parents, I am their child…who seeks their approval, who turns to them for advice and comfort and who enjoys being pampered by them. …..on the other hand, in the role of mother to my children, I am a parent….who nourishes, cares, protects, advises and enjoys pampering them. So yes, many different roles and which one do I like the best? ….All of them…..They are all a part of me and I love the way each role brings out a different side of my personality…..talkative, quiet, introvert, extrovert, serious, funny, philosophical, witty, go-getter, procrastinator, thinker, fun-lover. …brought out by the many different roles which all come together to define ME.
Responsibilities – All the different roles I play also lead to many different RESPONSIBILITIES. But I think in this stage of my life my biggest responsibility is towards my two children….my two little ones….whom I am responsible to mould in the right way. I think a parent plays the most important role in any child’s life. While we are responsible to raise them in a loving environment we are also responsible in teaching them right from wrong and making them grow as strong individuals.
Regrets – Don’t get me wrong….No big regrets in life. But the little little REGRETS are there….things that should have been done differently….words that should have been used differently or not used at all…..letting some people slip out of my life without realizing their importance…..at times, not speaking up when I should have…..not attending a Jagjit Singh concert when he was alive…..not volunteering for social activities before marriage while I was in India…..yes, those little little regrets….which can be identified only in hindsight. But while these little little regrets are there…I don’t regret having these little little regrets….I call them ‘experience’ ….they taught me to do things differently the next time around. I always wonder one thing though….does everyone have little little regrets in their lives? I wonder……
Respect - I RESPECT ….those who are happy even in the direst of circumstances….those who always have a smile on their face and kind words for others……those who find time in their busy lives to stay in touch with their family and friends….those who find time in their busy lives for their own hobbies and interests….those who give their 100% to whatever they are doing…..those who never give up without trying……those who find time in their lives to help others who are less privileged.
Signing off knowing that I am not much of a Risk taker and in love with Raindrops, Roses and Rainbows and this quote by Robert Frost
‘Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.’
